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Andrea Clark's avatar

The work of appreciative inquiry is something I will take into my work life (thank you!) but the personal side of it really grabbed me. My parents don’t acknowledge my queerness, and I have so much more grief around that than I know. I can’t change their religious or political beliefs. But I can practice gratitude for what I do get from them instead of only feeding my resentment. I can practice this and grieve. It doesn’t justify their actions, but it will allow me to feel more open and expansive.

“I stopped holding on to the disappointment in what my parents couldn’t do for me, in terms of emotional support, and started being grateful for what they could do for me…”

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Richard Brady's avatar

I awoke this morning feeling depressed - the political scene, climate change, things at home. Reading your post, I identified my feeling as grief. Thank you for this. I realized I needed to go deeper and turned to this poem by David Whyte:

The well of grief

Those who will not slip beneath

the still surface on the well of grief,

turning down through its black water

to the place we cannot breathe,

will never know the source from which we drink,

the secret water, cold and clear,

nor find in the darkness glimmering,

the small round coins,

thrown by those who wished for something else.

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